Content: "Middle child came home and she said,  look, I.  My counselor wants me to join all these clubs,  and I don't want to join the clubs.  I'm not, like,  a club person. And I said,  okay, well,  what's the big deal? Just don't join the clubs.  And she said, well,  I don't want to disappoint him.  And that was a big moment for me.  I really think that our job and what I told her is, like,  we need to just walk around every day  with the express goal of disappointing everyone.  Like, that should be not something we avoid,  but something we strive for.  Because even that word, disappoint.  Think about it. It's like  disappointing someone else as the decision maker of your life  and reappointing yourself.  So I said, oh, honey,  you gotta disappoint your counselor.  You gotta disappoint everybody  so you don't have to disappoint yourself.  And she said, oh,  even you? And I said, oh,  especially me. Like most of my friends,  I know people who are doing, like,  the biggest, huge lives,  and they're all still just living not to disappoint their parents.  Their parents aren't even alive anymore.  It's the most important thing we can do in our entire lives  is to stop recreating  what we think our parents would have wanted us to  and create what we want to create.",